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It really is great you are wanting to set some values to try and live them. Figuring out what is important to you, how you want to be treated, and which rules you want to live by are all great things to try and discover while you are a teen. Doing so will put you in a great position to live a healthy, productive, and fulfilling lifestyle.
A great place to start would be by setting some boundaries for how you want to be treated and how you are willing to treat others. For example, not engaging in specific activities with guys until later in the relationship or when you are married. Tell a guy right off the bat, "I hope you aren't in this relationship for sexual reasons, because that just isn't going to happen until..." By laying it all out there like that guys will know what you expect and how they should behave. If a guy oversteps your boundaries then you will know they aren't the type of person you are looking for. Nobody should be pressured or forced into doing anything they don't want to. Setting boundaries and sticking to them can really help with this.
Deciding what is important to you is tough, but is definitely something you can do. We can help guide you in the right direction so you know where to start looking. This link provides a great place to start. It is aimed at helping you prioritize your life- figuring out what is important to you is the absolute best place to start when you are looking to develop values:
Being taken advantage of really does make you feel crappy, but it doesn't have to continue. The key is to be firm and consistent with your boundaries; don't let people overstep them. If you don't feel comfortable then it shouldn't happen. You are important and so are your feelings. When people overstep your boundaries, then you will know it is time to move on to different relationships or activities. You deserve to be respected.
Abe, Counselor