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Edited: 4/6/2011 11:41 AM by
Want To Quit
I drank very heavily. It was after an extremely bad break-up. I used to lock my door, and drink by myself. I'd get so drunk and depressed that I'd cut myself and end up regretting it the next day. I just kept drinking. I began dating someone who hated drinking, and so eventually I stopped. I've been sober for about 4 months now, and I wouldn't touch another drop. However, while dropping that.
 
I've picked up smoking. My boyfriend does it, and he's kind of a very renowned stoner. Nothing in this world could ever get him to stop. However, It's hard for me to stop when everyone I'm around smokes. I really want to quit, but it's extremely hard.
 
I'm conflicted because he really wants me to quit, and a part of me wants to. I just don't know where to begin.
Edited: 4/6/2011 11:42 AM by

It is so great that you are reaching out for support.  Obviously, you have recognized that your past behavior of drinking and cutting was not a lifestyle that was healthy and safe. Rather than focus on past mistakes, lets look at the current destructive behavior you and your friends are practicing. 

It sounds like you are caught in a maze and everywhere you turn your friends, boyfriend and peers are all smoking. You cannot find your way out of this maze and don't want to if you have to do it alone. 

Although you may really care about your boyfriend, there comes a point in life where one has to decide what route they want to take towards their future.  Smoking this hashish is not going to get you a scholarship to attend college, good health or a relationship that is genuine. Only you can make the decision about the future you desire.

Based on your past destructive behavior and your ability to overcome this, it is apparent how strong of a young lady you are. You will make the right decision. Please reach out if you want to discuss this further. You can e-mail, chat or contact the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-448-3000.  Counselors are available 24/7 to help.

Stay safe!

Kay, Counselor