Boyfriend's Dad Beats Him
My boyfriend comes from an abusive family. His dad beats him pretty bad and only him. My boyfriend has been threw this abuse since he was young, but he is afraid to speak up because he has a younger sister, and he doesn't want child services to take her away.
He always tells me when he's hurt I have pictures, and proof of his beatings, and he has come to school crying before. I'm not sure what to do as his girlfriend it hurts me to see him in pain. He talks about suicide because he's so unhappy, but he always says he's to wimpy to kill himself, but I'm afraid that he might just not be able to take the pain anymore.
Please help me I'm not sure what to do, but I want him to live a happy life because I love him, and I only wish the best for him.
You must be a very caring person to reach out for help for your boyfriend. It takes guts to do that. It is going to take even more to do the next step. Someone needs to get an adult involved. Whether it’s a parent or school counselor, a coach or church leader, someone needs to know.
I realize this is easier for me to say then for you to do. It is hard, but it is the right thing because he and his family need help. The only way to get help is for people to know. It is understandable that he is worried about his little sister. But he has to also realize how dangerous it is, or will become, if this behavior continues. His dad I am sure does not want to hurt him. Most of the times people with anger issues need help too. There is help out there and we can help him find it.
Can you have your boyfriend give us a call if you are not able to talk with any adults? We can help his family start toward a better future. It will take time, but it took time to get to where it is now too.
In the meantime, let him know you are there for him to talk to and that you understand. Make sure he is safe and will not attempt suicide. No one should have to go through what he is right now. Help him remember that this is temporary and he will get better and stronger. Things will get easier when his family can get some help.
So please talk to someone and/or give us a call at the Boys Town National Hotline (800)448-3000 We are here 24/7 and really do want to help.
Lisa, Crisis Counselor