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Edited: 8/20/2010 3:54 PM by
How Do I Move On?
when i was 7 my mothers boyfriend had molested me. i told my grandmother and she went to my mother about it. my mother had to her boyfriends side for it as he had said no he hadnt touched me. i dont know why my mother would choose him over me. why would a 7 year old daughter lie about something like that? yes i know my mother loved him. but only beacuase he had money and he was a drugie and he drank. my mother was a major drinker. she also did drugs. so she took his side over mine so she wouldnt lose her "party" buddy. but they are now married and i dont care anymore about what happend beacuase i know what comes around goes around. but the man she married has looked at me like i was a grown women when i was only 9 and he has said quote on quote "you have really grown baby girl" as he was looking at my "chest" and looking me up and down. and my mother was standing right next to me. i have never talked to my mother about this beacuse i dont wantto hurt her although she lives in a diffrent state and i never hear from her and i have lost all total feelings for her. i just need to know what to do to forget all this. im tired of hearing similar stories from diffrent people and then all the memories come back. so please tell me what to do.
Edited: 8/20/2010 3:54 PM by
We are so glad that you have decided to reach out for support with what you are going through.  I can only imagine what it must be like for you.  There are so many similar situations going on out there, and sometimes it does help to know that you are not alone.  But, it sounds like you are ready to move on from this and put it behind you.  It's great that you are ready to find healing from what happened to you.  Sometimes you have to talk about the past to move ahead, so keep that in mind. 

Have you ever talked to a counselor or a therapist in person about what your mother's boyfriend did to you?  If not, I would encourage you to think about it.  Are you living with your grandmother now?  Maybe tell her that you are feeling ready to move on, but that you might need some help.  Ask her if she would be willing to take you to a counselor so you can work through it. We can offer you some referrals to counselors in your area.

 In the meantime, focus on your friends and school.  Take time to do things that you like.  Maybe you are a good artist or like to sing?  Spending time doing things that you enjoy will take you mind off bad memories for a little while.

Of course, you can always contact us either by email or calling.  If you decide to call we are here 24/7 and it is a free call 1-800-448-3000.  We hope that you will keep in touch with us and let us know how you are doing. 

Take Care,

Sunni, Counselor