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Edited: 8/20/2010 3:53 PM by
Abusing My Own Body
I started self-injury back in 7th grade, and I will be going into 9th grade soon.
I've just felt so empty.
My father left me when I was 9. So I've had trust and abandonment issues since then.
I am in a new relationship with my best friend. I really like him. But I'm worried I'll scare him away because of the cutting, emotional baggage, etc.
I also have lots of self-esteem issues. My friends call me pretty and skinny, but all I see is a fat, ugly cow.
So to lose weight, I've been binging and purging once a week. When I'm not doing that, I won't eat.
So far, I've cut the words, "Abandoned", "Worthless", and "I'm fine", into my thighs, I don't ct my arms because I don't wanna call attention to myself.
I cut my legs so no one notices. It's a relief, for awhile, I focus on the pain and forget about my life.
I know I have issues, but my boyfriend says I shouldn't go into counseling, because he likes me the way I am and doesn't want me to change. (He doesn't know about the b/p or cutting.)
My friends do know, and they are worried. They want me to see a therapist, but my boyfriend tells me not to listen.
I'm sure if he knew he would want me to go, but I'm not sure how to tell him.
Help me, I feel so lost. I don't know what to do.

Edited: 8/20/2010 3:53 PM by
You have certainly been trying to cope with many issues.  Unfortunately the ways that you cope are negative ways.  We are so glad that you decided to write to us and tell us what is going on in your life.  Have you ever had the opportunity to talk to someone about your issues?  These issues won't ever go away by cutting or bingeing and purging.  They will just continue to fester and grow inside of you. 

Your friends are telling you to do the right thing.  You are lucky to have such good friends that care about you. Does your mother know what you are doing?  Can you talk to her about what you have been doing to help yourself cope.  She would probably be so proud of you if you came forward and told her yourself before any of your friend's parents tell her. Because of your age, your mother is the only one that can get you the appropriate help.  You NEED help.  Your boyfriend likes you so much and you are right when you say that he would want you to get help if he knew what you were doing.  You have so much support around you, You are a lucky girl. 

Cutting is a dangerous coping mechanism.  You could cut too deep and really cause some damage. There is help and you are not alone. You can either call us or email us.  Either way we are here 24/7.  Just let us know how you are doing and what is going on in your life.

We want you to get help for the your illness.  It is so important to talk to mom about what you going through.  Good luck.  We have counselors that can help you talk to her if you want.  Just give us a call.

Take care,
Naina